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tony barnhill
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Guess its time for me to reinterate the prime directive that's worked for me through almost 40 years of marriage to 1 woman & more cars & man toys than I can remember:MadRiver said:
"She can never say 'no' to me if I never say 'no' to her!"
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tony barnhill said:
Amen! I'm on my 1,2,3...15th car/parts cars in 7 years and she is always tolerant of it. There is time for her and the kids and then there is car time. Equally balanced, it works quite well.
Gee 15 cars in 7 years is 2.143 cars a year. If'n I keep up this pace, I'll be at 85.72 cars in 40 years. I've got some catching up to do if I want to keep u pwith the Barnhills /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
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Ah, Dave, you must meet Miss Jerri...right, Mickey? The lady wanders out in the garage occassionally and might ask, "Is that a new car or did you have one painted?"davester said:
And I think the reason it's worked so well for us all these years is what Steve said:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:]My wife and I live the same way, but of course there are limits! [/QUOTE]
When we got married in 1969, we discussed our long term financial goals and where we felt our limits should be....I remember it well, at the time we felt we could each spend up to $100 without involving the other - anything over required discussion.
As we matured and grew, our understanding of one another grew and matured and we learned to accept one another's foiables and interests; we learned to respect one another. And part of it might be that I was always somewhere in the world doing my thing while she was back home raising our daughter.....something I really wanted in those days was for Jerri to become independent so she didn't 'need' me to help her make decisions. We still discuss everything financial, things like major purchases, vacations, investments - but we each have our own checking accounts & don't worry about what the other is doing with theirs (though I have to occassionally watch hers because she forgets to move money from it to savings!)
But, I digress...an example of how it works:
Recently, I ran across a great deal on an old Jaguar XJ6....I knew I didn't need her approval to write a check from my account, but - since it was a few thousand - called her & told her what I was doing....her answer (as always) was, "If you think its a good deal." Of course, a short time later she wondered out loud, "How do you think our eating and sleeping porches would look like if they were tiled with a terrazo or some type stone?" My cue! Porches are beautiful!
But, like Steve & Vinnie said, its got to be a mutual understanding and within limits that will change as a couple's financial situation matures. And each has to live up to their part of the bargain.
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Sounds a lot like us Tony. In the past 2 years, Jeani and I have set up seperate accounts. I can buy & sell as much MG stuff as I want as long as our driveway is accesible. (thans Mom for having a 4 MG car garage). She in turn can buy as much real estate as she wants - as long as we don't go broke. Every other Saturday is work on the house day and we do it together as a team. It's been working splendly.
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We are in our 21st year.
It took a while for us to find out how we work together but since then it's been pretty smooth.
Believe it or not technology has played a role in our better fit.
Since I can now pay all our bills online and have reminders I'm no longer late with any bills, which makes her feel a lot better - less stressed.
Things are also better now due to better chemistry, literally.
Since I've been properly diagnosed for some of my medical problems and have been on the 'right' meds things are better for everyone.
Now if I can just remember to take them.
My oldest daughter jokes that she is going to buy me one of those pill box things for my birthday - you know, the ones with a compartment for every day of the week. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
When it comes to the cars my wife just wants the parts to not be in her way in the house. She also likes the cars, but just to drive - not to work on. She is a member with me in our local MG club - the MGCCNWC. We go to meetings and social gatherings together, we have yet to do a run but are planning on doing one or two this year.
Much of our life is centered around our many children and all of their activities, needs, wants, etc...
I've talked with her though about the time ahead when they are all grown and out on their own, that we should find or rediscover some things we like to do together without children so it wont be a big shock.
She is a homemaker and mom, I work to support the family.
I go in early so I am back home by the time the first of them gets home from school. Having us both there I think gives them a real sense of stability. It also helps her to be able to go and do stuff knowing I'm there in case she isn't.
She gets to have her friends and go visit them and take part in social activities while I work and many times while I'm at home. Her freedom in this area is also good for me, so it's all win-win.
Financially we are not doing as well as families with two employed parents, but we make it. Hopefully our choice of lifestyle is good for our family, we wont know for sure until its way too late to change. We believe it is, so that's the way we do it.
I'd like to have a nice big shop, but there are other things that are more important. Maybe someday it will be my turn.
For now I'll continue to look for great deals on little cars and fix them up. My oldest daughter seems to have already claimed this '67 GT before I've even bought it. Her feeling is that I'll have it long enough to enjoy it which means it will all be fixed up by the time she gets it.
I've told her when she chooses a guy she had better find out if he can work on old cars, or if he is willing to learn. She laughed but said she could see the value in that. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
It took a while for us to find out how we work together but since then it's been pretty smooth.
Believe it or not technology has played a role in our better fit.
Since I can now pay all our bills online and have reminders I'm no longer late with any bills, which makes her feel a lot better - less stressed.
Things are also better now due to better chemistry, literally.
Since I've been properly diagnosed for some of my medical problems and have been on the 'right' meds things are better for everyone.
Now if I can just remember to take them.
My oldest daughter jokes that she is going to buy me one of those pill box things for my birthday - you know, the ones with a compartment for every day of the week. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
When it comes to the cars my wife just wants the parts to not be in her way in the house. She also likes the cars, but just to drive - not to work on. She is a member with me in our local MG club - the MGCCNWC. We go to meetings and social gatherings together, we have yet to do a run but are planning on doing one or two this year.
Much of our life is centered around our many children and all of their activities, needs, wants, etc...
I've talked with her though about the time ahead when they are all grown and out on their own, that we should find or rediscover some things we like to do together without children so it wont be a big shock.
She is a homemaker and mom, I work to support the family.
I go in early so I am back home by the time the first of them gets home from school. Having us both there I think gives them a real sense of stability. It also helps her to be able to go and do stuff knowing I'm there in case she isn't.
She gets to have her friends and go visit them and take part in social activities while I work and many times while I'm at home. Her freedom in this area is also good for me, so it's all win-win.
Financially we are not doing as well as families with two employed parents, but we make it. Hopefully our choice of lifestyle is good for our family, we wont know for sure until its way too late to change. We believe it is, so that's the way we do it.
I'd like to have a nice big shop, but there are other things that are more important. Maybe someday it will be my turn.
For now I'll continue to look for great deals on little cars and fix them up. My oldest daughter seems to have already claimed this '67 GT before I've even bought it. Her feeling is that I'll have it long enough to enjoy it which means it will all be fixed up by the time she gets it.
I've told her when she chooses a guy she had better find out if he can work on old cars, or if he is willing to learn. She laughed but said she could see the value in that. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
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This is getting exciting, I just made the appointment to come see the car on Sunday.
He can trailer it up here for me, I don't know yet how much he will charge.
With all his other cars I am curious to go see what else is hanging around there. Wouldn't it be cool if he had an 1100 or a Magnette? Also I really need some parts for my C.
He can trailer it up here for me, I don't know yet how much he will charge.
With all his other cars I am curious to go see what else is hanging around there. Wouldn't it be cool if he had an 1100 or a Magnette? Also I really need some parts for my C.
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I've already offered him the $500 he wants.
He cancelled the Craigslist ad.
If it's not way different that what he told me I will have it here within a couple days.
Like Tony said, the OD trans stuff alone is worth $500.
Throw in a car along with it & you have a deal.
Not a "Tullamore" - but a pretty good deal nonetheless! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
He cancelled the Craigslist ad.
If it's not way different that what he told me I will have it here within a couple days.
Like Tony said, the OD trans stuff alone is worth $500.
Throw in a car along with it & you have a deal.
Not a "Tullamore" - but a pretty good deal nonetheless! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
tony barnhill
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Way to go, Rick!!
Oh:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:]My oldest daughter jokes that she is going to buy me one of those pill box things for my birthday - you know, the ones with a compartment for every day of the week.[/QUOTE]
Jerri says my bathroom looks like a pharmacy! She also is threatening to get me one of those boxes...every morning & every evening she asks, "did you remember your medicine?"
Heck, when I went to apply for Social Security to start at age 62, they told me to apply for disabiity Social Security which wil give me the full age 66 amount forever - that's how bad mine is!
Oh:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:]My oldest daughter jokes that she is going to buy me one of those pill box things for my birthday - you know, the ones with a compartment for every day of the week.[/QUOTE]
Jerri says my bathroom looks like a pharmacy! She also is threatening to get me one of those boxes...every morning & every evening she asks, "did you remember your medicine?"
Heck, when I went to apply for Social Security to start at age 62, they told me to apply for disabiity Social Security which wil give me the full age 66 amount forever - that's how bad mine is!