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More awkward moments in the single's scene...

Bret

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Ahh the single life....

So according to one lady I met - I'm “materialistic and arrogant”.

Now I honestly have no idea what brought this on, but this one gal got some cocklebur under saddle about me over the weekend. Hey I’ll admit that we never exactly hit it off the first few times we've met and in fact I wrote her off a long time ago as not being anything more than a casual acquaintance. But it seems she felt differently at one point and told her friends that she really took offence at me not being interested in her and totally unloaded on me big time Saturday night.

Bout about halfway into the evening a group of us where standing around a table in a local gathering hole. The guys where swapping lies and the gals where talking about whatever gals talk about.

Anyway a couple of the guys & I where talking about typical guy stuff like cars & tools etc. When this girl interrupted & asked me if I thought I was “a materialistic person (with the cars, toys, etc.)?” Just as I was about to ask why, she said - that she thought playing with sports cars and big boy toys where a waist of money and immature. Well I finally managed to say that "it’s just a hobby that I happen to like and that I’ve met plenty of women that didn’t have a problem (don’t care really) with guys liking cars. Moreover I knew more than a few who enjoy them just as much as the guys do – so what’s your point?”.

By this time nobody else is talking but the two of us. Heck even the girls had stopped talking and where listening to our conversation too. Then she snapped & told me that I was conceited & fastidious (I actually had to look that one up) and then she stormed off, leaving all us guys standing there with our mouths open. What the..?!?!

Next day another girl that was at the table told me that she was upset because of the way I dumped her. I swear I never even took her out – don’t ya have to at least date someone once to be able to actually dump them? She told me she didn’t know, but for some reason the girl thinks you where a “jerk” (not the true vernacular used) to her and how I might as well check her off my list. Shaking my head - "But that's the point - she never was on my list".

So while I’m not upset or anything (think it’s kind'a funny actually), I think that there are some females of the species out there that are re-writing the rules of engagement as they go. Oh well, yet another lesson learned.

But what’s really bothering me is that who uses "fastidious" in a conversation anymore. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif
 
Bret

I think it is great that you never went any further with that one, whew, seems like it may have gotten much worse. Ohh yes she may have expected you to chase after her yadadada.

If you gave me the shark and pagan, all would be good ehhh /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/devilgrin.gif

Seriously, I have never seen that side of you and have been called the same (only a few times /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif ). It is best to right that off. You work hard and have earned what you have and deserve it.

Pat
 
Tell me Bret, what brand clothes was she wearing? I'd bet anything she had something with a big name on it - and then purely only for the name. Just don't try to argue the point though!
 
I've never pretended to understand the whims of women... after 5 years of marriage, numerous female friends, a sister, mother, mother-in-law, female bosses...

Somethings we just aren't going to understand. For better or worse, men and women do seem to see things in life differently. Moving on seems to be the proper course of action here. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
 
She meant facetious. And if she can't even slam you and insult you correctly, GOOD RIDDANCE.

Materialistic? Bet she had on several hundred dollars worth of clothing, shoes, jewelry, purse and makeup. Just to go out and have a drink. Who's materialistic?
 
Well, Bret, the proper answer to her first statement about you being “a materialistic person (with the cars, toys, etc.)” was "Why, thank you very much - I'm glad you noticed. Now we don't have to play silly games making one another think we're interested."

And if she continued with telling you you are "conceited & fastidious", the proper answer was "[censored], girl, do you know what you just said. Because I sure as heck don't."

Oh, 'fastidious' was probably the word she wanted to use & it can be considered either a scornful statement or a compliment, depending on how you take it!

Main Entry: fas·tid·i·ous
Pronunciation: \fa-ˈsti-dē-əs, fə-\
Function: adjective
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin fastidiosus, from fastidium disgust, probably from fastus arrogance (probably akin to Latin fastigium top) + taedium irksomeness — more at tedium
Date: 15th century
1archaic : scornful
2 a: having high and often capricious standards : difficult to please <critics…so fastidious that they can talk only to a small circle of initiates — Granville Hicks> b: showing or demanding excessive delicacy or care c: reflecting a meticulous, sensitive, or demanding attitude <fastidious workmanship>
3: having complex nutritional requirements <fastidious microorganisms>


So, using <u>"having high and often capricious standards"</u> as the proper definition, the correct answer was "You are so right! And I'm glad you realize you just don't measure up!"

Cut them no slack!
 
Dang, Bret, you must be a women killer! They all
want you and you don't even know it.

Hey, this one is rather shallow and frusterated
anyway. How could she possibly relax long enough to
have a good time?

Yeah, write this one off and hope to find one that
will enjoy the simple things in life, like handing you
the ratchet turned the right direction just when you need
it cause you got ahold of nut at the back of the bolt
and you just can't let go till you've turned her a
couple times. Then maybe you can enjoy an evening
talking about anything that comes to mind -- and probably
would.
 
Thank you Bret for reminding me again how thankful I am that I do not have to play the dating game. I was never any good at it when I was young and the thought of "going out" made my stomach hurt! (Weird thing....when I quit trying to be "a girl" and started just doing my own thing....along comes a guy who loved me for it! Been married 23 years now and still spend as much time under my cars as he does!)
 
terriphill said:
Thank you Bret for reminding me again how thankful I am that I do not have to play the dating game.
Alas but this seems to be my destiny in life. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif

BTW her use of the word “Fastidious” was to say that I was too picky and fussy about minor things (in her view) that in her eyes I seemed overly obsessed with.
 
Perhaps you were not fastidious enough since you ended up somehow in association with her. Had you been a little more fastidious, you might not have ended up being called fastidious by an uncouth, ungracious, peurile,boor.
 
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:]peurile[/QUOTE]
Even misspelled, it says everything! Either she's 'juvenile' or her remarks were 'childish'...hehehe
 
oops...sorry puerile..my fingers aren't as dexterous as my mind.......
 
Bret

Do you have any pets. I was picked up at the Vet's office. I meet my wife there. We have been together for 18 years with 16 being married. We started out by her trying to fix me up with one of her friends that worked with her. She has been with all of my hobbies from flying, motorcycles that we still do, jet skis, fishing, and no my TR3 which she just shock her head when I started it. Now I think she likes it as much as I do and sometimes more.

Don
 
donbmw said:
Bret

Do you have any pets. I was picked up at the Vet's office. I meet my wife there. We have been together for 18 years with 16 being married. We started out by her trying to fix me up with one of her friends that worked with her. She has been with all of my hobbies from flying, motorcycles that we still do, jet skis, fishing, and no my TR3 which she just shock her head when I started it. Now I think she likes it as much as I do and sometimes more.

Don
Now see everyone - this is what I call thinking out’a the box. Good call Don, /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif

But sadly I'd already thought about the pet angle too. Problem is when the ex-gf & I split up she kind of got custody of the dogs. But like our kids she lets me have visitation with them too. However I just can’t tak'em to my rental house, because I'd have to pay an extra $500/ea as a pet deposit if the landlord ever found out.

Still it's a great idea! Especially here in my town as we've got a great dog park. But again when I go I usually have my daughters in tow and have to take the dogs back to the ex's before leaving.

That’s why in about 4-6 months I hope to purchase a house of my own and the ex has already agreed to let me take the dogs when I take the girls.
 
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