Here is the response I received from Fort Wayne Clutch to questions about allowable diaphragm finger wear, plate wear and testing.
"The rebuilt kit you see on Ebay for $119.00 is a Borg & beck clutch and has a new diaphragm in it, The diaphragm is riveted into the cover, the pivot ring has a 5 3/4" diameter. The plate would have less than .015 ground off during resurfacing. The diaphragm pressure would be a little heavier than an OE Laycock style would be.
We also have a new Borg & Beck pressure plate and disc available, it is a different style than the rebuilt, the diaphragm is crimped into the cover, and the pivot ring diameter is 6 3/8". The pressure on this clutch is even heavier than the rebuilt.
The spring pressure tester we use shows a high pressure, and a leveled pressure. The high pressure indicates the initial force required to push the diaphragm from the top of the pedal stroke to the released position, and the leveled pressure would be the pressure required to hold it in the released position.
The pressures are:
Rebuilt Borg & Beck 225 - 400
New Borg & Beck 300-575
OE Laycock 175-425 (taken from some old notes on file, and i can't confirm this one.)"