NutmegCT said:
Well said, Steve. Bravo.
We have the right to say whatever we feel. That right, however, should be self-moderated by respect and understanding that the rest of the world may not agree *and* may not take it exactly the way we mean it.
That's human nature. Sadly, there are folks who love to flaunt their personal feelings in the face of others, often (not always) just to get more attention.
Responsibility for our actions - and their effects on others - is one of the traits of adulthood.
Tom
I actually agree - to a point. The idea that we should self-moderate saying what we feel and consider the setting and circumstances, and the feelings of others, is PRECISELY why I don't use this forum to "flaunt" my personal ideology - even though I would be well within my rights to do so since I own the place. I make an honest effort not to use my forum as an open platform to espouse my views for exactly the reason you stated - respect for others. I may have private discussions with people that I would not post on the forum, but that's an entirely different matter.
I apologize if I'm sounding a bit defensive here, but I'm perceiving that it is being suggested that if I show outward support for someone or something that I genuinely admire or believe in, that somehow I'm "flaunting" my personal feelings - that is to say I'm doing it for the purpose of upsetting others. Nothing could be further from the truth, at least in my case - I can't speak for others.
I do agree though that often people put things on their cars for the express purpose of attention-getting and flaunting their views in a way that they know would be offensive to others. Almost daily I see cars with bumper stickers plastered all over the back end that are decidedly negative towards things I believe in. These are not bumper stickers that simply show support for a person or idea, but rather that denigrate the things I believe in. Obviously those people are within their rights. Equally obviously they are flaunting their views and doing so in a manner that thumbs their nose at those of us who may not hold the same views. I have never put a bumper sticker on my car that was a slam towards someone or something - only positive statements, for example.
The other day I was in a local Subway shop and some fellow had a T-shirt on with the name of some singer and his "band" (we'll just call the singer Dave). This particular singer - we'll call him Dave - is someone I personally abhor and whose value system is very different than my own. Should that fellow with the T-Shirt not have shown his support as a fan of this "singer" because I (and probably many others like me) might find this particular singer's views offensive in many ways? Think about that for a minute. The guy's T-shirt wasn't a slam for anything I believe in, it was just showing support as a fan of someone he obviously likes. I have worn T-shirts myself with John Lennon's face - because I'm a fan of his music -period. Yet, there are some people who can't stand Lennon because of his often stated political views. Should I have NOT worn my Lennon T-shirt because I know there are people who don't like Lennon because of his political views?
I don't intentionally do things or show support for things for the purpose of offending others. But at the same time, I served my country for 24 years to defend our Constitution and feel that I should be afforded the same respect when I express my views as I show others when they express views or support for things that I don't happen to agree with.
Some people will take offense at almost anything these days, but seriously, what a sad state of affairs it would be if we all felt we had to live like cloistered monks for fear we might "offend" someone if we show support for something or someone or some cause we believe in. If our Founding Fathers had taken that approach to life we'd have never become a country.
This is a fascinating discussion and, while I understand and respect what you guys are saying, I hope that I too am making some points that make sense to you on some level.