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Blind dates? Love connections or .......

I met my wife on a bus,in an other country. We're still dating,and boy is it fun. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/banana.gif /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/banana.gif /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/banana.gif /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif

Stuart. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cheers.gif
 
jaybird said:
I've come into this thread a bit late for any advice, but all I would have told you is to have a cuppa simmerdown and things will be fine. You underestimate yourself.

You're above-average good-looking. You are f….<Snip>
Ah shucks, stop! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blush.gif You’re embarrassing me!

But thanks JB, a woman’s perspective on this is refreshing – especially compared to some of these yo-yos so far. I'm kidding guys! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/grin.gif

That I will admit that I’ve looked into the online dating services and while I feel a bit uncomfortable with putting myself out there like that, I know a few folks who’ve had a lot of success with'em. But the true test is time I guess – I’ll let you know if those folks are still together in about 15-20 years. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif

Likewise, I’ve never been one for going to church socials or cruising the isles of the local laundry mat or supper markets for dates either. That only leaves me with what I hate most about being single – the dreaded “Singles Bar” meat market scene. But I kind of like to know what’s in that “Box of Chocolates” before I open it. <Oh God! I’m using Forest Gump Metaphors now?!?!> and those services seem to do a lot of that sifting & screening for you and that helps with avoiding the “oh he’s cute” or “I bet he’s loaded” hits. So while I haven’t decided if I’m going to go that route – they do seem to have their merits.

As for the next step? I’ve already told her that I think we need to plan another date. A night out this time and even made a couple of suggestions keying off of some of the things we talked about.
 
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:]That I will admit that I’ve looked into the online dating services and while I feel a bit uncomfortable with putting myself out there like that, I know a few folks who’ve had a lot of success with'em.[/QUOTE]
Jerri's college roommate went with one of those computer dating services way back when you had to fly to New York to fill out a huge survey & they key punched everything...she's been married to the guy some 30+ years now! They're both a bit weird IMHO - nice but weird...he's now retired from the Library of Congress, their son is about my daughter's age, & they seem perfectly happy.
 
My only advise Bret, is always be yourself. Don't try to fake anything. As, here I am, like it or not, this is what you get. I'm no authority on dating as it's been a couple of years since the wife and I dated. But, November, 23rd of this year, will be our 50th anniversary. When I'm around her, I still feel like a kid. Hope you all can say that one day.
 
Bret said:
jaybird said:
I've come into this thread a bit late for any advice, but all I would have told you is to have a cuppa simmerdown and things will be fine. You underestimate yourself.

You're above-average good-looking. You are f….<Snip>
Ah shucks, stop! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blush.gif You’re embarrassing me!

Hey, I was talking about your car, NOT you...
/bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/devilgrin.gif
 
jaybird said:
Bret said:
jaybird said:
I've come into this thread a bit late for any advice, but all I would have told you is to have a cuppa simmerdown and things will be fine. You underestimate yourself.

You're above-average good-looking. You are f….<Snip>
Ah shucks, stop! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/blush.gif You’re embarrassing me!

Hey, I was talking about your car, NOT you...
/bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/devilgrin.gif
Ok now see - actually that makes more sense. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif
 
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:] Big question: Is she willing to work with you in the garage?[/QUOTE]

teriphil...not sure which way to take that...in my case if my wife wanted too it would be terms for divorce!
 
Yes,

But is she willing to put up with Bret's disease?

This would make a good first step.

Pat
 
BIBBER said:
<div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:] Big question: Is she willing to work with you in the garage?

teriphil...not sure which way to take that...in my case if my wife wanted too it would be terms for divorce! [/QUOTE]

My husband and I work great together in the garage (also remodeling our house, in the garden, hiking across the rockies...) I guess what I meant was.....does she love what you love and can you get along together even when its the fourth time you've had to pull that durned motor. We are best friends and would rather spend our free time together than with other people. Perhaps this explains 23 years, 2 kids and 5 rebuilds together /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smile.gif
(Although I probably wouldn't recommend working together in the garage until at least the third or fourth date ;))
 
terriphill said:
Big question: Is she willing to work with you in the garage?

In a word, Yes, Rockette is no slouch in the garage, She is
a service writers worst nightmare. The best example is when
she bought her daily driver, the CEL came on the second day
she drove it to work. Off to the dealership, the service
writer claimed she hadn't screwed the gas cap on tight enough,
she told him "I haven't put any fuel in it yet, you guys filled
the tank last, its probably the evap cannister solenoid..."

Needless to say, they fixed the evap cannister solenoid and
sent her on her way...

SteveL
 
Bret: This doesn't apply to your blind date, but things happen in the weirdest of ways. I met my current girlfriend in one of those weird ways - it was online, but not a chat room or dating service, nothing of the sort - and we were not looking for someone to date. After a short time we both felt a weird connection, then started talking loosely about it. We're about an 18 hour drive apart so it wasn't easy to find an excuse to just meet for the sake of meeting, and neither of us was pushing for any kind of relationship beyond being friends.

There was a convenient reason to meet 3-4 months after we first bumped into each other, and we hit it off from the first glance, and it has been better than I could ever have imagined. People cannot believe what a "perfect" match we seem to be. We're the kind of couple that does incredibly strange things like... out of the blue one day I text messaged her "what would you do for a klondike bar"; just before I sent that she was thinking about getting a klondike bar - yet neither of us ever talked about them or even ate the things. It's been that kind of relationship constantly for three years.

For one reason or another she sort of broke up with me 5-6 weeks ago (no tears please, we're trying to figure things out), then over the weekend I spent two days with her. At one point we went to a store and I saw something 'cute' and grabbed it on the way out for her. She just shook her head because she was just about to grab it to buy me.

We've never been able to figure out any of this stuff...except for the breaking up (which I think is just a little bump in the road that she needs to deal with), we're an amazing match for each other - yet we met in the oddest of ways, 1000 miles apart, and without ever looking for each other.

Life...is strange.
 
aerog said:
Life...is strange.

Yes it is,but it is also beautiful,unpredictable,unfathomable.Oh wait a minute you said "life". /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/jester.gif
Of course life can be good too.Particularly when you meet some one and get to love them. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif

Stuart. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cheers.gif
 
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