Well, Doug, since a kid is in VA, you need to move to the "Old Dominion"!!!
The Tidewater area around Suffolk is a bit busy/crazy, but there are good spots around there and the cost of living is great. Charlottesville, for example, has been rated the number one place in the USA by "Cities Ranked & Rated" and other indices: very low crime; good medical care; good cost of living; little or no traffic snarls; major university with tons of cultural activities,etc., the whole shebang. What's more, Thomas Jefferson <span style="font-style: italic">still lives here</span>

(at least it seems that way sometimes)!
I'll also add that the January, 2010 issue of "Car and Driver" lists Charlottesville as one of the nation's top ten areas for drivers/driving! Perfect, twisty, scenic country roads everywhere, with the Blue Ridge Parkway/Skyline Drive 25 minutes east of here.
Anyway, good luck with your search. Tough decision, but I'm sure you'll be happy wherever you go. :thumbsup: