Carl,
I hope what I am about to say is received in the good spirit in which it is intended. I imagine you are dealing with a lot of frustration right now.
After watching several loved ones go through stroke, I have observed that recovery is all about goals. It may be worthwhile for you to set driving that 5 speed again as goal to work for. A good goal like that makes going to physical therapy and doing the often tedious exercises associated with physical therapy a lot easier.