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Lost a member of the family yesterday

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Bret

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Sad news....

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Molly on the left our 11 year old golden retriever would’ve been 12 this December, but sadly lost a long battle with cancer. We knew it was coming for a couple of years ago when the doctor removed some growth about the size of a walnut from her neck that turned out to be a cancerous.

Normally this type of cancer is vary aggressive and if found in a limb – usually calls for the amputation. But because it was in the neck the doctor said that the chances it will return and to make the best of our time together.

For a few years there we’d all but forgotten about the doctor’s ominous prediction of Molly’s demise. But a few weeks ago I noticed that she’d started to get a little slower & slower but always wanted to play with her sister Emma (our 8 year old golden on the right) as well as our kids. But as each day passed she seemed more & more content to just lay her head on someone’s lap and just be petted.

Thanksgiving I had originally planned on taking kids up to my moms for the day, but early that morning my ex-girlfriend called and asked if I’d come over early because something was wrong with Molly.

Arriving at her house Molly was alive but wouldn’t move without some severe coaxing and was whimpering when she did get to her feet.

At that point we loaded her up in the ex’s SUV and drover over to the Animal Emergency Room a few blocks away.

I won’t go into details but suffice to say we think the doctors & nurses did everything they could and yesterday we all gathered to say goodbye one last time. Lots of hugs & pets and quite a few tears passed before I then collected the children & took them home, while my ex stayed with our dog through the final moments.

Needless to say we’re all still in a state of shock around here and Thanksgiving was to say the least bittersweet.
 
Hi Bret;

Sorry to hear about your Golden: I too have a Golden that is approx. 12yrs old: She is OK but simply getting old: I know the time nears for her as well: I can feel your loss:

Russ
 
Sorry to hear about the this sad event. I lost my Cooper just before Valentine's day, and still miss him a lot. A mixed Golden/German Shepherd, he was one of the sweetest dogs ever and went much too young, at age 8. Each and every dog that has shared our life is a permanent part of family.

Remember the happy moments, and give Emma and the kids a lot of extra affection and attention for the next few days. The hurt will mostly pass. Your loss is shared.
 
My condolences Bret.

i also lost my dog this summer, and was feeling pretty bad about it, then someone sent me this...



Why Dogs Don't Live As Long As People
======================================
Being a veterinarian, I had been called to examine a ten-year-
old Irish Wolfhound named Belker. The dog's owners, Ron, his
wife Lisa, and their little boy, Shane, were all very much
attached to Belker and they were hoping for a miracle.

I examined Belker and found he was dying of cancer. I told the
family there were no miracles left for Belker, and offered to
perform the euthanasia procedure for the old dog in their home.
As we made arrangements, Ron and Lisa told me they thought it
would be good the four-year-old Shane to observe the procedure.
They felt as though Shane might learn something from the
experience.

The next day, I felt the familiar catch in my throat as Belker's
family surrounded him. Shane seemed so calm, petting the old
dog for the last time, that I wondered if he understood what was
going on.

Within a few minutes, Belker slipped peacefully away. The
little boy seemed to accept Belker's transition without any
difficulty or confusion.

We sat together for a while after Belker's death, wondering
aloud about the sad fact that animal lives are shorter than
human lives.

Shane, who had been listening quietly, piped up, "I know why."

Startled, we all turned to him. What came out of his mouth next
stunned me. I'd never heard a more comforting explanation.

He said, "People are born so that they can learn how to live a good life
like loving everybody all the time and being nice, right?"

The four-year-old continued, "Well, dogs already know how to do
that, so they don't have to stay as long."

Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly.

~Author Unknown~
 
Sorry to hear about your loss. I too am a golden owner but he is only about 2. We took him in from the Local Golden Retriever Rescue and he is a great member of our family. I've had golden's before, both with cancer, and can understand how you feel. Again, my sympathies.
 
Very sorry to hear of your loss Bret. I know how you feel - we lost our Boxer Chance and our German Shepherd Sadie recently.

Basil
 
You've indeed lost a member of the family. The member who never questions, always takes part, and gives unending affection.

I lost my 20 year old buddy George the Wondercat just before Christmas last year. He was nearly 90 in human years; I think he got so disgusted with the way humans have mucked up the world he just meowed "enough!". And he had always kept the neighborhood free of elephants.

Still miss the little guy a *lot*. And I'm sorry to learn of your loss of Molly, especially at this time of year.

Tom
 
Bret:
Sorry for your loss. Memories will sustain you until this is not so hard.
And remember "All Dogs Go To Heaven"

Dave
 
Thanks everyone. Its still tough dealing with her loss. We never realized how much Molly was the base around all of our lives. Her sister Emma pictured to her left is a only a few years younger than Molly and came from the same mom & dad from two different litters. She seems beside herself and keeps looking for her sister carrying their tug towel around. It’s too early now to think about it - but we think we're going to get another Golden when the time is right. But there will only be one Molly.

Everyone is still in a state of shock over the whole thing as it happened so fast. But while my youngest daughter Jordan (4) seemed pretty sad at first like all of us, she was one of the first to bounce back - immediately pointing out that – “Molly is with the doggie angles now and is positive shes getting lots of doggie treats”.

Now I realize my daughter doesn’t fully understand this but I really like the way she thinks.

Cheers & thanks again.
Bret
 
Very sorry to hear of your loss, Bret.
 
It's really beautiful how our pets can become real family. Sorry to hear about your dog, Bret, it can be very painful sometimes.

Man's best friend, in so many ways.
 
I am so sorry for the pain you are all feeling at the loss of your Golden. We lost ours 5 years ago and it took us or more correctly me to finally agree to getting another Golden. I/we got Toby from our local Golden Retriever Rescue. He came from Santa Fe from a family that had more money than sense and had the 'maid' drive the two, brother and sister, to Albuquerque to drop them off. They had shaved both dogs because of their 'leaving hair all over the place." When I was advised there were two, I quickly drove to town. The brother, Toby, just jumped into my truck and sat there. Needless to say he came home. His sister was also adopted within the hour. I know this because I said if she didn't get a home in a week, I would come back and get her.

Toby didn't replace our beloved Baron (17 when she (yes she) died but he certainly filled a void for our family and our other dog, an Australian Shepherd who sadly passed rather quickly from melanoma two years ago.

I truly understand your sense of loss and can only say that you never forget, you just don't remember quite so often as time goes on.

Focus on the good and cherish the memory.
 
Family is family: Fur, skin, claw or hoof. The loss is a grief. As long as the stories are told, that family member will continue to have existence.

Hail Molly.

...and keep her memory and existence alive. The list is long. Ever longer.
 
Sorry for your loss, like having a familt member die.
It's just me and the wife and our 3 cats. My old
Maine cooncat is now 16 and I know it's gonna
happen sooner than later.

Good memories.

dale and wendy
 
Sorry to hear this Bret. I know what you are going through as I had to have my Keeshound/collie cross put down earlier this year. It will get easier.
 
My condolences, it seems so unfair that they give us so much and we give so little back
 
I am so sorry for your loss...I still get a little sad when I think about Bubba Joe..who I had before my husband or the boys. He also had cancer. Its a terrible thing to lose a good friend.
 
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