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Long story short, the first kid I started with is moving to OK. He's the one that got me involved in all this. He moved about 30 miles way from here about a year ago which was hard enough, but I could always go see him whenever I neded and I was always readily accessible. Just got the call his GM has cancer and they are all moving to OK. This is really tough on me. He's a great kid and I hate to see him go. I probably will never see him again. My "job" is to get them where they don't need me anymore, but it doesn't make it suck any less when they do.

Thanks for the laughs this morning Doc, You'll never know how much I needed it! It's nice to have friends here to laugh with. :thankyousign:

Man this sucks !!!!

I should have known this was comming cause it appears I've been sent another one....still doesn't make it suck any less.
 
I feel your pain. We have no idea where our youngest is most of the time as he cannot tell us, even when he calls (something about national security and US Air Force rules that his Mom will will never accept).

We have traveled a number of times to see him, and may even meet up with him in Okinawa in February, but the last planned trip there was canceled.

Hang in there and think about the good times stay in touch with him via all available means.

So sorry for what has happened to you. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers.
 
You might want to try a social page such as Facebook. It's a great way to keep in touch. Just a thought.

Kids at a distance is tough. My daughter is in Florida but we keep in regular communication.

Brings to mind skype - all you need is a web cam.
 
They have a computer but can't afford internet. That's prpbabaly a good thing as his brother is ALWAYS playing games on the computer.
 
What part of OK are they going to?
 
Yeah, it's sad to see 'em go, but let me give you a little perspective. My younger son has multiple neurological problems and has had mental health issues. He lives nearby, and probably never will be able to get through life entirely on his own. I'd pay or do ANYTHING if it would make him truly independent.

You've done your job, and apparently done it well. Be proud of yourself and happy about the way he's turned out.
 
Sarastro said:
Yeah, it's sad to see 'em go, but let me give you a little perspective. My younger son has multiple neurological problems and has had mental health issues. He lives nearby, and probably never will be able to get through life entirely on his own. I'd pay or do ANYTHING if it would make him truly independent.

You've done your job, and apparently done it well. Be proud of yourself and happy about the way he's turned out.


I hear ya but it still sucks. Moving that far away I seriously doubt I'll ever see him again.

Walter, he told me but I was in shock and didn't hear a word he said, so I have no idea.
 
kellysguy said:
They have a computer but can't afford internet. That's prpbabaly a good thing as his brother is ALWAYS playing games on the computer.

Usually the local library will have internet access so perhaps you can arrange for specific communication times. If the library is really progressive, i.e. big city, they will also have web cam availability and all it costs is a library card.
 
Think of it in the positive terms that's he's running to help with family health problems, not ignoring them or running away. Still tough on you, but it's shows an installed sense of maturity and responsibility you can take credit for.
 
That's what worries me. His mother, brothers, sister ~AND~ his mom's ex boyfriend and HIS WIFE are all moving there. The ex boyfriend has been living with them, but I don't think his wife has. The wife may have been in jail. The whole thing reads like a Jerry Springer transcript. I can't even mention the rest of it here. :eeek:
 
I'm confused: "Just got the call his GM has cancer ..." What is a GM. I thought it was his General Manager and his move had to do with his job? I guess the reason for his move is not important but I hate to be confused, especially at my age.
 
Perhaps a little more background would be helpful. He's a local kid I've spent allot of time with. I have "my" group of kids here that I "took on". He was the first one. We don't have our own children. More than enough to go around as it is...
 
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