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And the signature after that little gem seems to say it all....
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anthony7777
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tinster, my new viking fridge has bouble doors, its gunna be a real pain to pull em back out! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cry.gif
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Call me contrarian- of course, there are items there that are, thankfully, anachronistic...and the piece itself is of questionable provenance...
https://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp...
but many items on that list have merit. I am not prepared to declare that the social mores of 2008 are so far superior to generations before on every issue. The idea that a spouse may be willing to do these things, or even be expected to do so is not about superiority or subjugation- it's about each spouse willingly serving the other.
Too many marriages are based on the misconception that a good marriage should be "50-50". Nonsense. That just results in each spouse not so much giving their 50%, but insisting on getting their 50%. Marriage was designed to be 100-100 with each spouse giving their all for the other. It doesn't always happen- to be certain, but when the goal we work towards is to love our spouse selflessly, it has a tendency to help past the situations when we become selfish.
This article (if it is indeed authentic) was written to women. It does not imply men have no responsibilities- it is not written to men. We may very well find "old fashioned" some of the notions about the responsibilities of a husband in generations before if we saw that article....
...but the purpose of a 50 year old article making the rounds on the internet is not historical accuracy, it is temporal, or rather, generational superiority. A typical reaction by some of the generation that followed the "Greatest Generation". Rather than thank their forebears for the sacifices they made to make life easier, they not only reject, but ridicule the very morality that provided the freedom to question that they think they first discovered some time after 1959.
Geez- I took this in a more serious direction than even I expected.
https://www.snopes.com/language/document/goodwife.asp...
but many items on that list have merit. I am not prepared to declare that the social mores of 2008 are so far superior to generations before on every issue. The idea that a spouse may be willing to do these things, or even be expected to do so is not about superiority or subjugation- it's about each spouse willingly serving the other.
Too many marriages are based on the misconception that a good marriage should be "50-50". Nonsense. That just results in each spouse not so much giving their 50%, but insisting on getting their 50%. Marriage was designed to be 100-100 with each spouse giving their all for the other. It doesn't always happen- to be certain, but when the goal we work towards is to love our spouse selflessly, it has a tendency to help past the situations when we become selfish.
This article (if it is indeed authentic) was written to women. It does not imply men have no responsibilities- it is not written to men. We may very well find "old fashioned" some of the notions about the responsibilities of a husband in generations before if we saw that article....
...but the purpose of a 50 year old article making the rounds on the internet is not historical accuracy, it is temporal, or rather, generational superiority. A typical reaction by some of the generation that followed the "Greatest Generation". Rather than thank their forebears for the sacifices they made to make life easier, they not only reject, but ridicule the very morality that provided the freedom to question that they think they first discovered some time after 1959.
Geez- I took this in a more serious direction than even I expected.
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I believe that was from a home economics book from the early 50's. It's really pretty funny. I have seen this before and showed my wife and got quite "the look".
I believe the secret ( at least one of them ) to a happy marriage is to make her think SHE is the boss. Let her pick out the wallpaper, so later, the big things get done correctly, and you get what you want. i am probably going to start a fury.
I believe the secret ( at least one of them ) to a happy marriage is to make her think SHE is the boss. Let her pick out the wallpaper, so later, the big things get done correctly, and you get what you want. i am probably going to start a fury.
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/bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/iagree.gif "i am probably going to start a fury."
You poor guys, all this time you thought we were being fooled by you're thinking we were believing that we were the boss. We weren't thinking that, we KNEW that.
Realizing that Lawguy certainly did take this very seriously, there was a lot to be said for the wife being the homemaker and the husband being the breadwinner. However times have changed and we can blame women's rights, feminism, etc. but it takes two incomes to just live like the families of the 50's. I was a child of the 50's and when I had my child I wanted to stay home as many of my neighbors did but was unable to - reason for this doesn't matter. There wasn't a day that didn't go by when I didn't cry or sulk for having to leave my daughter. I even arranged (and I was very lucky to be able to) to instead of working one full time job, to work 4 part time jobs and arranged my hours to suit my being involved, i.e. Brownies, Christian Doctrin teaching, chaperoning, etc. I actually worked more than 40 hours but it allowed me to spend more time with my daughter.
I truly think having one parent in the home and one parent working is a great environment for the children. In reality just having two parents is a big deal nowadays.
Times change and change isn't always for the best.
You poor guys, all this time you thought we were being fooled by you're thinking we were believing that we were the boss. We weren't thinking that, we KNEW that.
Realizing that Lawguy certainly did take this very seriously, there was a lot to be said for the wife being the homemaker and the husband being the breadwinner. However times have changed and we can blame women's rights, feminism, etc. but it takes two incomes to just live like the families of the 50's. I was a child of the 50's and when I had my child I wanted to stay home as many of my neighbors did but was unable to - reason for this doesn't matter. There wasn't a day that didn't go by when I didn't cry or sulk for having to leave my daughter. I even arranged (and I was very lucky to be able to) to instead of working one full time job, to work 4 part time jobs and arranged my hours to suit my being involved, i.e. Brownies, Christian Doctrin teaching, chaperoning, etc. I actually worked more than 40 hours but it allowed me to spend more time with my daughter.
I truly think having one parent in the home and one parent working is a great environment for the children. In reality just having two parents is a big deal nowadays.
Times change and change isn't always for the best.
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Hmmm... seen it before, saw the Snopes eval too (I tend to check about every Internet "revelation").
I grew up in those times, quintessential Boomer. Father did 60 hour work weeks, mother was home. I can say it was NOTHING like the article or the clap-trap TV "families" of the time. More about raising responsible, self-reliant kids. Not sure it actually ~worked~ that way but it certainly made for a great childhood for brother and me. Oh, and my parents were in their mid twenties when married, not "kids having kids". I think that counts for a lot, too.
I expect as the "Compleat History of the World" is writ, a chapter containing the time from the end of WW-II up to 9-11-01 will be titled and judged as "The Golden Age of the USA".
I grew up in those times, quintessential Boomer. Father did 60 hour work weeks, mother was home. I can say it was NOTHING like the article or the clap-trap TV "families" of the time. More about raising responsible, self-reliant kids. Not sure it actually ~worked~ that way but it certainly made for a great childhood for brother and me. Oh, and my parents were in their mid twenties when married, not "kids having kids". I think that counts for a lot, too.
I expect as the "Compleat History of the World" is writ, a chapter containing the time from the end of WW-II up to 9-11-01 will be titled and judged as "The Golden Age of the USA".
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Yea...
Suffrage, ERA, IVF & now free $
Are we trying to vote ourselves of the island?
Once they discover power tools....We're done /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek.gif
Suffrage, ERA, IVF & now free $
Are we trying to vote ourselves of the island?
Once they discover power tools....We're done /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/eek.gif
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along with the spades, hearts and clubs.... /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/jester.gif
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I'll remain silent about the role of women: they'be been good to me! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/cheers.gif
Key to my success: I married "over my head"!! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif
Wife earns more income, is smarter, and better better looking than yours truly. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thirsty.gif
You won't hear me say anything bad about the "fairer sex"!! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazyeyes.gif
Key to my success: I married "over my head"!! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif
Wife earns more income, is smarter, and better better looking than yours truly. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thirsty.gif
You won't hear me say anything bad about the "fairer sex"!! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/crazyeyes.gif
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I also married up the food chain!
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Regardless of what anyone says, I would NEVER want to be totally dependent on my husband for EVERYTHING! I cannot imagine what that must have felt like. Having to ask for money when I want something like a child with my hand out for my "allowance" What a feeling of helplessness.
I agree its 100/100. We work together...we raise our kids together, clean the house, do the yardwork and pay the bills..as a unit. Its worked for twenty-one years....seems stupid to change it now.
I agree its 100/100. We work together...we raise our kids together, clean the house, do the yardwork and pay the bills..as a unit. Its worked for twenty-one years....seems stupid to change it now.
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terriphill, Ive never feel "helpless" extending my hand to my wife for my weekly allowance! well its actually more like this- /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/bow.gif