Going missing for awhile

[drooartz]

Wow. Very sorry to hear of your situation. Not much I can add other than that you've got friends here, dive into that car and move forward (seems to be your plan).

 

[waltesefalcon]

Well guess it's time to get to work on the Spitfire, good luck, and if you need an ear we are pretty good at listening here.

 

[judow]

I am so very sorry for the pain that she caused you, your family and her family. She is indeed ill and perhaps because of that you can forgive her. Obviously she is in need of help to make her mentally well.

Now go out, grab your life back and enjoy!!!

Also please don't mistrust the next special person in your life as I have no doubt that there will be such a person.

 

[Guest]

I thank you all for your support and apologize for the deception.

I say the following as someone who had to walk out something very similar:

A. You didn't do anything. No need to apologize.

B. You dodged a bullet my friend.


I had one with issues like that before I met my wife. That one cost me an engineering degree (however; I still have the 40K student loan). The hardest part was getting through my head the fact that I didn't "loose" anything.

Here's the deal, you can't loose something you don't have. While you *thought* you had a loving, stable yet dying fiance', that clearly wasn't the case. The only place that person actually exsisted was in your (and her) mind. The only thing you lost was the illusion of that relationship and/or person. The whole deal was imaginary, there was nothing real to lose.

What you did in reality have, was a person in close enough proximity to RUIN your life had she remained.

I know, I know, I can here you now, "WTH DO YOU THINK SHE DID *%&$#@ ?!?!?!" What she did was disappoint and hurt you. This is just a minor set back. Your life isn't ruined, as clearly you can live on.

Once you can get your mind around the fact that:

A. None of it was real, there was nothing to lose.

B. She in fact is poisonous. To have married her would have been the worse thing you could have done.

C. If she had indeed been what and who you thought she was; she would have in fact died....and only *THEN* would you have lost something...but that isn't the case.


Yeah, I know, it still sucks, HOWEVER; once you can get you mind around that fact there was nothing to lose and you actuall GAINED freedom from this... AND and ability and chance to find the real deal, you'll feel much better.

Like I said bro, been there, done ~ALL~ of it...and came out on the other side with a wife I could have only dreamed of... :thumbsup:


Never in a million years did I see ANY of it comming... neither the ex's acts NOR my furture wife just over the horizon...

I can't over emphasise that enough ! :wink:

This too shall pass.

Hope this helps.

 

[Sherlock]

So sorry to hear about your situation, sadly such stories are becoming more common, here in Calgary there is a local musician who faked cancer and got his friends to help him raise some money for treatment, then ran off with the money after the fundraising event, he hasn't been seen since and now has warrants out for his arrest...

 

[Guest]

a local musician who faked cancer and got his friends to help him raise some money for treatment, then ran off with the money after the fundraising event

Ya know, funny you should say that. There is a shyster character here w I had a business deal with him and he tried to pull some crap with me. I hit him across the chest with $23,000 cash and told him get out of my yard. (He was buying a car from me). He also pulled some crap with an old friend years ago. Now he claims his wife has cancer.

He tried to pull some funny business about his wife with another friend of mine. He's just had a benefit for her too. I've already seen him screw folks over who helped him out durring Katrina. I hate to sound cold but I wouldn't belive him even if I saw his wife inna coffin. :wink: