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Dating question? <that I always wanted to ask>

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Bret

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Ok this is a question for all you divorced folks and folks who broke-up after long relationships. And just so all you folks who’ve been married since the dawn of time don’t feel left out, you are welcome to comment if you must. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif

So anyway one thing that has always been a concern of mine when dating is when I meet someone who happens to have the same first name as one of my ex’s. I mean it’d feels kind of creepy to be honest and on more than one occasion I’ve walked away from what seemed like a perfectly nice girl just because of this.

So if someone had the same first name as your ex(s) would this be a show stopper for some of you folks? Just want to know if I'm alone on this one.

Oh & as a follow up if you did decide to pursue a relationship with someone who shared the same first name as your ex – when do you think you should tell them? Personally I’ve never let it get that far but it would be interesting to know what others have done.

Truth is my whenever I hear my first ex-wife’s name mentioned I get a nervous tick in my right eye and sweat starts rolling down my forehead. The second ex even though it lasted longer than my marriage isn’t so bad but still seems creepy.

Thoughts?
 
Bret said:
Truth is my whenever I hear my first ex-wife’s name mentioned I get a nervous tick in my right eye and sweat starts rolling down my forehead. The second ex even though it lasted longer than my marriage isn’t so bad but still seems creepy.

Thoughts?
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Sounds like Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, You should
seek professional help, and back bill your Ex...

SteveL
 
Start dating women with exotic names... /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/wink.gif
 
Bret said:
So if someone had the same first name as your ex(s) would this be a show stopper for some of you folks? Just want to know if I'm alone on this one.
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Depends on how she looks.
 
bret, think of it this way youll not have to purchase new monogram pillow sheets, towels, thank you/xmas cards etc. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/jester.gif
 
Bret -

I've stayed out of your dating posts until now, as I've been out of the dating scene for close to 40 years! However, here's my take:

If she's the one, <span style='font-size: 26pt'> Who cares what her name is? </span>

Truthfully, you'll get over whatever residual damage has been done if you've found the right one. Let it go and see what happens.

(My fee is $100/hr. I do accept PayPal!)

Seriously, lighten up, Guy. It'll be OK.

Mickey
 
I'm glad I have nothing to add to this thread!!
 
It makes it much easier and leaves far less for you to explain if you ONLY date women with the same name as an ex. So when you scream it out in a fit of passion, you can't get it wrong...

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Boy you guys - it takes a woman to say what ya all are thinking but are afraid to say. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/smirk.gif

jaybird said:
It makes it much easier and leaves far less for you to explain if you ONLY date women with the same name as an ex. So when you scream it out in a fit of passion, you can't get it wrong...

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JB /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/winner1.gif I know I must be breaking some sort of unwritten Man Rule here but I got'a hand it to ya. So because I am dooly impressed, it is with great honor that I (the original poster) present you with the Cajones el Grande award for this thread.

Guys I'm disappointed in you all. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/rolleyes.gif
 
"fit of passion" I remember those, I think.
 
Along JB's thoughts, you don't have to worry about mumbling the wrong name while you're sleeping. /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/thumbsup.gif The subconscious can be brutal.
 
jaybird said:
So when you scream it out in a fit of passion, you can't get it wrong...

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Ooooo......been there, done that....it ain't pretty.

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It would save money on embroidered towels and such.
 
Re. the fit of passion; I have never met a gal called "uurrgh".





I'll go get my coat and leave now.
 
Just for my 2 cents, years ago I had a boss who had been married 3 times. ALL his wives were slender blondes with a propensity for stilletto heels, a chic fashion sense, and by strange coincidence were all named Betty! I don't know if this really means anything, but it seemed to work for him and he lived long and always had a smile!!!
 
I thought it was obvious Bret. I was astounded no one had said that. So thank you for the Cajones el Grande. Now I have a spare pair!

Seriously, I'm so glad to see you out and dating and enjoying your singlehood.

Only advice I'd have, and it's from a strictly selfish point of view, man, I'd screen 'em and make sure they didn't have any kids under 22. I would have said 18, but you still could have 4 years of college there. You've paid your dues, still have 3 to go with your son and the 2 Chicklets.

See, I'd be very selfish the second time about if it were me. And it wouldn't be, because I would not do the date stuff at all. BUt, it would be ALL about me.

You've spent a lot of time all about everyone else, including your 6 kidlets. It's time for all about Bret.
 
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