100% behind Henri on this one.
There are some things in life we just won't be able to change, but HOW we live our lives is entirely up to us and that is something we can control.
I have a hereditary medical condition that has the potential to kill if not kept in check, it killed my oldest brother 5 years ago 2 weeks after he turned 40, that's how we found out about it. I have a choice in how I live, we all do. It's my choice to exercise almost every day, to shop exclusively at an organic supermarket, to prepare from scratch all the food we eat at home, to have my medical needs taken care of by an holistic doctor, to practice yoga, reflexology and massage... the list goes on.
Does it mean that I don't LIVE my life to the fullest? NO
Does it mean I don't have any fun? NO
Does it mean I won't have a couple of drinks here and there, or go out to dinner, or have a bowl of ice cream? NO
Does it mean I'm no longer the party girl I once was?? HECK NO - ask Jeff!!!
Didn't mean to rant... maybe Henri and I need a Philosophy section???
I suppose just think about yourself once in a while, it's not a selfish thing to do, scratch the surface of life a little deeper... you might be surprised at what you find!
RG