Aluminum flywheel as part of a total performance package is not a bad deal, I guess for some starting off with light flywheel is a big deal, when compared to race car with a 1.65 first gear it always seems fairly easy to me, a lightened stock flywheel is compromise between stock and aluminum, so thats not a bad choice either, but once you get someone to lighten it, resurface it, install a new ring gear if needed and then rebalance,it can run into a few bucks, you can throw $200 at modifying a stock flywheel real quick. A-series engines rev up fairly quick, so they respond to this less than say a MGB or a TR4.
David, that sc/cr gear set that your car has is one of the things that is messing with you probably alot more than the aluminum flywheel, those gears were designed for road racing so they are a good bit taller than a stock gear set, while they are nce once the car is rolling, no so much at stop signs and red lights.