Hoo boy ... this is a known PITA. There are two kinds of gaskets generally available: one type has two copper sheets with some white fibrous material in between, and one has perforated silver metal with black fibrous material in between. I've tried both--repeatedly--and it's a wash IMO. Solid copper gaskets should be best, if you find any please let us all know.
It's difficult to get a good, lasting seal at this joint. The 4-cyl cars had a bracket and clamp anchored by one of the pan bolts that stabilized the (single) downpipe. The 6-cyl cars don't have this, and I think part of the problem is the downpipes vibrate and work the studs, nuts and gasket so eventually you get leaks. I've gotten best results by:
- make sure the studs are in good shape (threads clean, not stretched)
- flat-file (or mill, if you can) the downpipe flanges as flat and smooth as possible (if you have the manifold out do same to it)
- apply high-temp silicone to both sides of the gasket (looks like Rich did this)
- either use new brass nuts or apply anti-seize to the stud threads and double-nut with steel nuts (my preference)
- check the nuts regularly for tightness