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That was kind of depressing.

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My wife's 93 year old aunt was put in a "Skilled Nursing facility" about 3 months ago because she was starting to suffer with dementia/Alzheimer's. so she needed constant care at home. She had someone staying with her all day but was alone at night. That became too much of a danger for her and the day time company did not really have the staff that could handle her needs. Her son who lives several states away and could not handle her himself decided the Skilled Nursing facility was the best option for her.
Because of covid visits are impossible at the moment.

Today we were granted a "Window Visit" It was kind of depressing as the facility had made no effort to provide any audio contact till one of the staff got their personal phone and we could talk to her on that.
I would have thought that with the amount they charge per day they could have fixed up a baby monitor or something so the residents could talk to their visitors.
She was totally confused as to why we would not come in to her. So I am not sure if the visit helped her or not.

She did look to be in good health and spirits apart from the fact we were standing outside the glass door.

My wife was very happy to see that she seemed to be doing good. She was worried that she may have not recognized us.

David
 
You would think! Man, sorry for her situation. That's just terrible.
 
Awful situation.
 
One of my oldest friends, poker buddy and fellow car nut - 1937 Pontiac convertible, TR2 that I installed a new radiator in while he was in the Army, MG TD driven from California to Stamford, CT where it promptly blew out its rod bearings, Miata, VW convertible - is now in an assisted living in Sarasota. He no longer recognizes his wife. Very sad.
 
That must be the very worst way to go.
 
He also needs a pacemaker but they won't give him one. Doesn't sound good. His son had an Austin-Healey that got neglected and was eventually sold for $3,000.00 to a Dutchman who took it back to Holland to restore. Shame. He also had a sailboat he couldn't sell and wound up donating. These toys are great except when you can't even give them away.
 
Watched a you tube video of a guy looking for a sail boat. He was visiting a marina in california and said there were dozens of abandoned boats there. One was a 65'cabin cruiser they would give to you if you would have it towed away. It was still floating and seemed to be sound. It had twin V8 motors. One comment was "there is nothing more expensive than a Free Boat"

David
 
Re: Kind of depressing; Those are sad tales and I offer my sympathy. When one adds the fear of uncomfortable covid doom to being in a wholly different environment than usual, life gets strange for anyone regardless of mental capacity.


Keeping it light, heading toward the new year. Good luck to you all!
 
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Just guessing elrey, but if this applies to you, then Get Well Soon!
 
I feel for everyone as we watch either surviving older family members or ourselves/spouses/friends fade away. My mom is near 87, been in nursing care a couple years and is moving into the final stage of kidney failure caused by being diabetic for the last 40 some years. Fortunately no dementia type problems but this last year of mostly isolation due to lockdown has really pushed her along towards the end. She’s physically incapable of walking anymore so even just getting to see the sun and feel the breeze during warm weather is tough. Worst part is knowing there’s nothing really my brothers and I can do about it.
 
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