They should be the same, I believe, so if the tranny plug is smaller, likely someone has already taken Vise Grips to it. My suggestion is to do that again, then replace the plug.
On my Stags, I really like the hex socket plugs I got from MMC. The big Allen (hex) wrench is much more positive and easier to use in tight quarters. Bought magnetic versions for all the drain plugs, too.
However, if you are going to stick with the stock square headed pipe plug, then I'd suggest a 1/2" drive, 7/18" 8-point socket. Should be available from any tool store, Sears, etc. By grabbing all 4 corners, it's much less apt to round than using an adjustable wrench or whatever.
I also recommend PTFE (teflon) pipe "dope" (aka compound) on the threads. It both helps the plug go in easier (so less force needed to seal), and acts as an anti-seize between the steel and aluminum so they come out easier next time. And unlike the more common pipe tape, there is no way for it to form 'strings' that can clog passages, etc. $10 at Home Depot should buy you a lifetime supply.