The reason people give all types of answers is that there are all types of correct answers.
The type of fluid you use in Strombergs and SUs depends on many different criteria. The first is the condition of the carbs themselves. If the carbs are strong, and recently rebuilt, 20wt is generally what the manuals specify. If your carbs are good, but old, ATF is a typical good substitute.
If you drive your car in the cold, going for a thinner oil is fine. If you drive in the heat of summer, a thicker oil is fine.
3-in-1 is very, very, very thin oil, and many times will result in fluttering.
You should also consider if you are using stock needles and ignition tuning. How you have your car set-up will indicate if you want those pistons to come up faster or slower.
I've used ATF, 20wt, Marvel Mystery Oil, 40wt, and even 50wt in different carbs. I use ATF now, and it works great for my car in the current situation.