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01-21-2008, 07:24 AM
lost my dad sat 3:30 another member of "the greatest generation" gone, he was on destroyers in both the pacific and European theaters,turned 80 in april and still one of the toughest s.o.b's youd ever meet, he fell in the nursing home fracturing his head and had several blood clots on the brain, i let the surgeons go in twice but had to call it.

01-21-2008, 07:27 AM
I am so sorry to hear this...I share your loss. I still miss my Dad 15 years after he left. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

01-21-2008, 07:54 AM
So sorry, Ant'ny. Mine left in '94. Missed his 70th by a month... another ex dogface, hard as nails, too.

Condolences, friend. He'll live on in your thoughts, for sure. I know mine does.

...this just evoked a smile and a tear here. Keep yourself well as this goes on. It's easy to forget your own well-being just now.


01-21-2008, 08:03 AM
Anthony, that is sad news indeed! My sincerest condolences. Be thankful at least that you were fortunate enough to be there with him at the end! My biggest fear when my time to go through this (undoubtedly soon,my Dad being 86) is that I will not have the opportunity to be there at his side!

01-21-2008, 08:46 AM
Very sorry to here this Anthony. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

01-21-2008, 08:55 AM
Condolences here also anthony7777, mine went a year ago at 80, iffen it wasnt for him introducing me lbc's when i was a kid i probably wouldnt be on here, he was ex corps of engineers

01-21-2008, 08:58 AM
Sorry to hear this. My sympathies.

Mickey Richaud
01-21-2008, 09:15 AM
"Let light perpetual shine upon him."

01-21-2008, 09:21 AM
Oh man Anthony, ---- sorry to hear about your dad.

01-21-2008, 09:34 AM
Condolences and our thoughts are with you from here too Anythony.

01-21-2008, 09:43 AM
Sorry Anthony, I'll bet he was a good man.

My Dad was also a WWII combat veteran (Navy). He'll be gone soon as he's very ill.

A tough bunch, those old WWII vets. It's very hard (if not impossible) for their sons to live up to their standard.


01-21-2008, 10:12 AM
My condolences also. It's tough to lose the guy that's been around forever. Mine left me back in 92 at only 65 years. (drunk driver in a van)

01-21-2008, 10:12 AM
Very sorry to hear this.

Both my folks are near his age and in declining health.
We understand the inevitable, but it's still hard.

My dear old Dad often says:
"We're <u>all</u> just living on borrowed time."

I guess it's not how much time you have, but what you do with it.
Sounds like he has a good legacy. Godspeed to him.

01-21-2008, 10:26 AM
Condolences - sorry for your loss

01-21-2008, 10:33 AM
"A tough bunch, those old WWII vets." /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/iagree.gif

I/we are so sorry for your loss. Hubby's dad is 86 (will be 87 on the 4th of July). He was hospitalized 3 weeks ago with pneumonia. He's now home and thankfully doing extremely well. While he does have short term memory loss he rememebers in detail his time spent in the Army followed by the Navy - a time he was especially proud of. We have an attached in-law quarters and while it can be difficult to care for elderly parents, it is not only our duty but our pleasure to do so. They often comment how lucky they are to have us but quite honestly I think it is us who are the lucky ones.

Again, our deep-felt condolences.

01-21-2008, 10:38 AM
Sorry for your loss.

tony barnhill
01-21-2008, 11:13 AM
Dito on condolences, Anthony....lost my dad when I was still in diapers from war injury complications...maybe he & your dad served together in the Pacific.

Bet all those oldtimers have a rousing good time up in heaven when they welcome a fellow warrior home!!

01-21-2008, 11:21 AM
My condolences, Anthony. Our thoughts are with you.

01-21-2008, 11:24 AM
Sorry to hear that - even if you think you're prepared,
it's tough.I sure that you can remember the things that
I'm sure he taught you,& be proud when you think of him.

- Doug

01-21-2008, 12:30 PM
I to lost my Paps in 1995, and still miss him dearly. He too was a WW II Navy Vet. He was on the U.S.S. Independence in Tokyo bay when Japan signed the surrender on the USS Missouri. Those ole boys were heros ALL!! I know you will miss him and i`m truly sorry to hear of your loss Anthony.

01-21-2008, 12:35 PM
Dads are tough to loose. But he is with his Buds now. Just think of the stories.

01-21-2008, 12:35 PM
My sincerest condolences to you and yours Anthony.I know from experience that the death of a loved one is hard to console, but it does help to know that you are not alone in your grief at this time.You have a an extended family on this forum that shares your pain and grief.

Our prayers are with you and your family.

01-21-2008, 02:16 PM
anthony...losing a family member is always tough..time will heal the loss but hopefully never remove the memories...I'll say a prayer for him.

01-21-2008, 02:24 PM
They say "time heals all wounds". Not true. But you'll always remember him in so many ways.

When I was in my 30s, my dad (WW2 vet) died of a massive heart attack while mowing the lawn. I got to his house and found he'd been putting things in boxes, each marked for me or my brother. Seemed to "know" it was coming.

Very sorry for your loss Anthony.


01-21-2008, 02:25 PM
I am sorry to hear it Anthony. Our thoughts are with you! /bcforum/images/%%GRAEMLIN_URL%%/angel.gif

01-21-2008, 06:18 PM
I empathize with you, Anthony. There is a special bond between fathers and sons. I still think of my Dad.

01-21-2008, 08:04 PM
Condolences. I lost my Dad back in 1963 when I was 12 and he was 43. He was WWII also. That memory still hurts 45 years later.

Think positively that you got to have him for the 80 years that he was here. I'll bet you have a lot of great memories.

01-21-2008, 08:36 PM
Sorry to hear, Anthony. I am very sorry.
May the Lord strengthen you and uplift you
now and always.


01-21-2008, 09:46 PM
Condolences. It is hard to lose a loved one. Remember always the good time you shared. They will help get you through the sad times to come.

01-21-2008, 10:01 PM

Truly sorry to read the sad news concerning your Dad.

01-21-2008, 10:42 PM
Anthony, you have my thoughts and prayers. I am sorry for your loss.

01-21-2008, 11:18 PM
Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time

01-22-2008, 07:09 AM
to all, it is comforting to know i could share this sad knews with my forum friends, your heart felt reactions are most appreciated, my family and i thank you all. "ill be beck"

01-22-2008, 10:16 AM
Condolences and sympathy to you and yours Anthony.


01-23-2008, 07:47 PM
I have a picture of my dad the day he shot an elk:
September 23, 1998. He is so happy. You can just
see it in his face. Always an avid hunter. The elk he
shot was massive....estimated to be 1100 to 1200 pounds.

I can reach out and touch his picture of him smiling
so warmly with glee. He looks down on me from that
picture and greets me every morning.

I never liked killing anything in my life, much less
a poor ole animal in the wild. Dad was brought up on
a farm milking cows. Killing the chicken or the pig;
butchering and cooking for him was a way of life.

He'd say to me: Son, you see a beautiful, graceful-walking
deer in the wild as you look with your naked eye; but I,
on the other hand, see a rack of steaks hanging there,
as I look through the scope of my rifle.

Always a respecful hunter in the wild. I love you, Dad.

Anthony, I could not help but share this, as I think of
my dad. I hope you not think me selfish.

May God bless you and comfort you,

01-23-2008, 09:15 PM
My sincere sympathies at the loss of your father.
My father died when I was 4 years old. 43 years later, a man approached me and asked if I was his son. He then said my Dad was the nicest man he'd ever met. I'm sure a similar incident is in your future. This is when he will tell you he never really left you.

01-23-2008, 11:01 PM
It just goes on. We're here, They aren't.

Soon enuff we're not and the rest are.

Give 'em th' stories and th' love.

All of us go around th' wheel...

01-23-2008, 11:37 PM
Anthony , I cannot read all the post on this topic as it is still to difficult after 27 years that I lost my dad and 17 years that I lost my son. I just want to say I feel for you!

01-24-2008, 10:09 AM
2wrench, great story! my brother and i would take our dad hunting we bought 50 acres in up state new york bordering state land loaded with deer, bear, cats, even wolves, we would set him up in the best locations dad never shot anything always snoring or smoking. great memories all.

01-25-2008, 09:07 AM
Good Morn`n Anthony,

I feel your loss as my Mom just passed on 1-14-08. She was 84 & deserves a long earned rest. My dad had passed on in `91 suddenly (Massive Stroke while sleeping). I suppose if your going to go; Thats the best way!

Ironically, The exact same situation with my Mom. In nursing home; Rolled out of bed & the catscan found a ton of blood on the brain. Options were to operate or just let her be in peace. I chose; "Let her be in Peace". She left us comfortable and without any pain. (4:04am).

Such is the life of us "Baby Boomers". We need to care for our Children as well as for our Parents!

May "God Bless",


01-25-2008, 09:47 AM

My deepest sympathy.


01-27-2008, 08:29 PM
Sorry for your loss, Anthony. My Dad is going to be 91 in May. He's still a tough old sum' b....
He drove a 53' TD for about twenty odd years in Warren, Mi. He ice raced t, too on St Claire.
I cut my teeth on 400 grit wet/dry paper and a bucket of water sanding his fenders as he changed the color of his MG five times while he owned it.