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jaybird
09-29-2006, 11:48 AM
We have over 6700 members on this forum and only TWENTY-ONE took a minute to send a good thought to Lee, who is dying? 21 measley messages to a guy that has been a big part of this board???

Like it or not, this is happening. We may not be able to change it, but we can surely help raise his spirits. If you don't know what to say, TELL HIM THAT. Just say something.

Come on, get your butts in that thread RIGHT now and at least let the man know we care.

Don't make me hurt you. I want 50 posts in there by tonight...at the minimum.

GRRRRRRRR.

https://www.britishcarforum.com/ubbthread...p;page=0#259136 (https://www.britishcarforum.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=0&Number=259136&an=0&page=0#25913 6)

jaybird
09-29-2006, 12:12 PM
Oh, and did I mention I'm ashamed about this? We're a family here.

Yea, I'm upset.

Randi
09-29-2006, 12:17 PM
I have friends in Ponca City & had them call and help out with anything they can. He knows I care. Randi

Steve
09-29-2006, 01:05 PM
Jaybird is absolutely right. I am not normally stuck for words, but in this instance I was.....I just did not know what to say to this man, who has been such good company on the board for some time now. So, I kept it simple, and just stated what I was thinking at the time.

Just a few words.....you don't even need a stamp!

tony barnhill
09-29-2006, 01:11 PM
Janel - its probably a guy thing...we understand, we empathize, but we also identify with & worry about it happening to us...thus, its hard to put into words how we feel about it (at least for some it might be)

jaybird
09-29-2006, 01:15 PM
It could be ANY of us Tony. That's what I don't understand. We can't shove it in a corner and pretend it isn't happening. Rather to let him think we don't care, than just tell him we don't know what to say hut we're thinking of him? It's not that hard.

I would surely hope that my friends wouldn't ignore me if (okay, when) I am dying, just because they can't put their feelings into words. It's not what you say, it's the fact you said something.

This Lee thing has me unbelieveably upset.

Steve
09-29-2006, 01:16 PM
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Janel - its probably a guy thing...we understand, we empathize, but we also identify with & worry about it happening to us...thus, its hard to put into words how we feel about it (at least for some it might be)

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What Tony said. I can only add that if it did happen to anyone else, would we not at least be comforted to know that we touched the lives of so many in the hobby? We can at least do that for him!

jaybird
09-29-2006, 01:21 PM
That's it. If he's touched our lives, it's important to let him know that. If you enjoyed his posts, his sense of humor, his advice and help -- tell the man.

I cannot imagine going through what he and his family are going through, and I'm strong as they come. I didn't shed a tear when Chuck was diagnosed with cancer. Because I instantly went into 'attack' mode. I'm as hard as rock and fierce as they come when it comes to preserving and protecting my family. But this has absolutely torn me up the past few days. Because I feel completely helpless. OTHER than trying to lift his spirits.

Camshaft
09-29-2006, 02:39 PM
I've read alot of Lee's posts over here and at MG Addict. He is certainly in my thoughts and prayers. I'm just sort of afraid to post in the thread. I have never personally talked to him, and i'm worried about being resented because I don't know him as well as some of you.

WhatsThatNoise
09-29-2006, 02:42 PM
Looked up Lee's first post.....

Just a bit over a year ago....And read a bunch of the others. /ubbthreads/images/graemlins/nonod.gif

https://www.britishcarforum.com/ubbthread...true#Post132557 (https://www.britishcarforum.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Board=UBB4&Number=132557&Searchp age=4&Main=132557&Words=BCruzn&topic=&Search=true# Post132557)

jaybird
09-29-2006, 02:45 PM
No one will resent you, most of all Lee.

Whatsthatnoise, why are you shaking your head?

AngliaGT
09-29-2006, 04:38 PM
Sometimes we don't know what to say.
We need a little push - Thanks!

- Doug

vping
09-29-2006, 07:51 PM
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I've read alot of Lee's posts over here and at MG Addict. He is certainly in my thoughts and prayers. I'm just sort of afraid to post in the thread. I have never personally talked to him, and i'm worried about being resented because I don't know him as well as some of you.

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I felt the same way but felt the need to just say anything. I'll tell you the truth, I don't recall his name on the list but since I first read about it, I have thought about it everyday. Just say what you can and think about what he must be going through. When you are having a crap day think about that and realize getting upset over stuff is'nt worth it compared to the big picture of life. Miracles happen & right now he needs all of our positive thinking.

Stepping down off the soapbox.

Basil
09-29-2006, 07:58 PM
I encourage folks to post a note IF THEY FEEL THEY CAN, but I'd ask that we make this a personal choice for all concerned. I'm sure that Lee will know that we are all thinking of him.

Basil

Bruce Bowker
09-29-2006, 08:13 PM
Well said.

kyreb1862
09-30-2006, 08:24 PM
I have worked as a Chaplain for 3 different groups and it has been my experience that when people are faced with the imminent death of a friend or loved one that they are suddenly made aware of their own mortality. It seems to affect men more than women because as guys we sometimes get a little "I'm immortal" thing going. This is what makes it possible for young men to fight wars and attempt crazy stunts. Suddenly a friend or loved one is at deaths door and we are handed a strong reminder that we are not immortal. The psyche then reacts by avoiding these reminders. Thus by not acknowledging Lee's condition many folks can hang on to their little immortality fantasy.

tony barnhill
09-30-2006, 08:47 PM
John - again one of you guys expressed what I was trying to say better than I could!

WhatsThatNoise
10-01-2006, 12:27 PM
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Whatsthatnoise, why are you shaking your head?

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While I was reading his posts, it occurred to me that I'm not really here for the repair advice.
(Although it helps)

I appreciate the humor more.......

A lot of his posts were also entertaining.........That's why I'm shaking my head.

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jaybird
10-01-2006, 08:29 PM
Yea, really sad...